Thursday, July 5, 2012

The Happy (Lazy) Side of the Writing Life



The laziness of a cat astounds me.  These images just touch the tip of the iceberg of how lazy -- or comfortable -- a house cat can become once they feel safe in their surroundings.  Humans love their pets; cats are particularly loved.  There's even a Pet Camp in San Francisco where feline "campers to have the opportunity that most citified cats never get – the chance to explore the great ‘outdoors’ within a safe, secure environment."  (You're probably wondering where I'm going with this, right?)

I have a feline friend as well, or rather, my children do.  I've been watching him for the last few weeks.  He's a well-fed, happy guy who sleeps, eats, poos, races up and down, scratches his post and gets massaged by both children daily.  He's happy.  This feline king does all the things necessary for his happiness and comfort.


As writers, what do we do daily to make sure our writing selves are happy and comfortable?  Writing, on certain days, can be a chore; we all know that.  However, how do you take yourself out of the writing doldrums?  Do you paint?  Do you jet-ski?  Do you fish?  Do you write limericks?  Do psychotherapy??  Or, do you too, like these funny felines kick back and relax?

There are so many stories that people from the previous generations tell.  I recall a story my Grandmother used to love to share.  This man was a workaholic.  He was providing for his family and doing a very good job of it.  He had been suffering with headaches on and off for a few weeks but thought nothing of it.  Drank some coconut water and sat a few minutes extra after meals before dashing off to the next thing.  One morning, he got up and rushed out even though he really did not feel well.  Later that day, he died of a heart attack.  My Grandmother told us that the doctors told them that if he had just rested a few extra minutes -- 15 to 30 minutes -- he would have lived.


So, now when we look at this kitten who fell asleep in their food, well -- what can one say except this kitty is following the doctor's orders!  Now, I'm not suggesting you start pumping out Zzzzs at the table right after (or during) dinner but what will make you purrr with pleasure?  Remember to do things that pump up your excitement for writing...again.  If painting by numbers does it for you -- do it!  If Zumba classes make your creative juices run -- get moving!

In a recent post by Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, he writes:

"Creativity researchers aren't so confused. They have long-ago accepted the fact that creative people are complex. Almost by definition, creativity is complex. Creative thinking is influenced by many traits, behaviors, and sociocultural factors that come together in one person."

So, if creative people are so complex, why do people always ask us dumb stuff like -- when's your next project going to be finished?  Where do you get your ideas?  Or, my personal favorite -- What's your writing regimen?

When you're working hard to balance work, family and your creativity these questions are tough to answer because our priorities must shift every day, every hour and sometimes every minute based upon what's happening in one's immediate life.

Due to the aforementioned complexity of our inner selves, the answers to the questions posed abouve should be suitably complex as well.  For instance, when asked when your book/next project will be completed you can say...

The absolute absurdity of your inquiry astounds me.  How can you blithely put forth this request when the molecules within my cerebrum and hippocampus are still processing the creative merit of the filament of an idea that jumped the chasm between my neurons in the billionth of a second that has just past.  How tremendously oxymoronic of you to stifle my creativity!  Hhmpf.

Or, if this answer is a bit much to roll off your tongue smoothly, just grab hardcover book and drum incessantly until the inquirer backs away slowly and flees when they're a good enough distance away.

Seriously, writing has to remain fun or else the stresses of everyday life and the pressure of meeting one's self-imposed goals start to wear one down and the inevitable happens -- no writing is done.

Remember the fun of writing.  The absolute joy you experienced when you first wrote (and completed) your first story, novel, essay, or poem.  Encapsulate that joy and breathe it in every time you feel the pangs of worry, angst, or writer's block coming your way.

The best cure for insecurity in your writing is -- gasp -- TO WRITE.

Until next time -- happy writing!!






 

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Book Thoughts: Butterfly


Rochelle Alers' Butterfly is a sweeping drama of Seneca Houston.  Seneca comes from a middle-class family in upstate New York with a controlling Mom, a genius brother, a cute baby sister and a warm nurturing Dad.

Where's the conflict? Everywhere!

  • Seneca vs. her mother's fear and jealousy
  • Seneca vs. her sister's envy
  • Seneca vs. her own personal demons (fear of success, intimacy, men, being controlled, getting pregnant…)

Seneca's fears may seem commonplace however when you're an-up-and-coming international supermodel her fears take on a life of their own.  At eighteen, Seneca was studying at NYU as a film & theatre major.  However, a model-turned-photographer, Leon Mitchell, felt she should be in front of the cameras not behind them.  After three years doing catalog work, Leon convinced her to meet a high-powered agent, Booth Gordon; and that, shall we say, is history.  Seneca Houston was reborn as Butterfly who glides down the runway.

Her personal life wasn't quite as golden as her blossoming career.  Take a ride with Seneca and read about the seedier side of the glamorous world of high-fashion modeling.  Tag along through all of Seneca's up's and down's in this slow-moderately paced book.

If you enjoy romances with well-developed characters, realistic dialogue and a hankering to read about male eye-candy then Butterfly's for you!

Rating: 3.5 Blogairy Notebooks

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

The GRIMmest Interview & Giveaway You'll Ever Read


Raynetta Stocks, author of The Grim, stopped by to chat with me about her book which debuted in May of this year.  I read it and loved it!  Read the review here.

I loved the book so much I wanted to share it with a lucky winner -- hopefully, it's YOU.  This way, you can take a journey with Jaycee, Maddy & Tony to see how deep and grim this particular rabbit hole is! (Sorry, couldn't help myself! Tee-hee.)  Oh, did I mention this is a 5-star rated Amazon book??

So, after reading what inspired Raynetta to write The Grim enter the raffle today!!

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If you don't win, buy it on Amazon
What inspired you to write The Grim?

The Grim is semi-autobiographical since I struggled with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) myself some years ago.  As I began writing the novel, I realized that I struggled to complete the portions where I was subconsciously having Jaycee confront issues I hadn't dealt with myself.  But, the writing was therapeutic in that way.

Do you have training in psychiatry or in the field of mental health?

I do actually.  I've worked with an outpatient mental health clinic for seven (7) years now.

How did you go about researching for this book?

I did still do a great deal of research for the novel.  I visited several inpatient psych wards to investigate what real ward living was like and procedure that is taken daily by the caregivers to those patients.  It was very insightful.

If The Grim were made into a movie, who would you want to play the main characters? Jaycee, Maddy, Tony & Tina?

I would love to have Jaycee and Aaron played by Zoe Saldana and Channing Tatum.  I think that would be a brilliant on-screen match!  Maddy would best be played by Dakota Fanning; she has a great combination of innocence and depth.  Jay Hernandez would be an incredible Tony and Tina...well, I can't think of one person in Hollywood, at present, with the youth and depth of Tina.  Perhaps an unknown would best fill those shoes.

When did you first begin writing?

I've always written, since I first learned how.  I was given my first journal at six years old, and I haven't stopped since.

Was there a pivotal moment/experience that let you know this was your passion?

I've always loved to write, but it was not always my primary passion.  Initially, I wanted to be a lounge singer, and that was the dream I pursued.  When I realized I was selling more lyrics than gigs I decided to let writing take the driver's seat.

Why did you choose the indie route to publish as opposed to the traditional route?

The best part of indie publishing is creative freedom.  I can say and write what I feel without all the political parameters.  Some of the topics I discuss in The Grim would have been vetoed by a traditional publisher, especially for a new author.

Will there be a follow-up/sequel to The Grim?

We'll see...

Tell us what makes you happy, mad and/or sad beyond belief? Why?

My family makes me happy beyond belief.  They are my happy place, the safe haven I run to when angry or sad.  What makes me mad/sad beyond belief is hearing the injustices, neglect, and pain inflicted upon children.  I can't stand it.
 
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Saturday, June 16, 2012

Book Thoughts: Love Walked In

Francine Howarth, a wonderful UK writer, has brought us a fast-paced romantic thriller with Love Walked In.  The extra spice of the British dialect to tickle our ears and whet our appetites for me.  As a wonderful nod to her growing fan base here in the US, the leading man is American with beautiful eyes that can go from dark midnight blue to stormy cloudy skies but the intensity is still the same -- sizzling!

Cassie Douglas is married to a dashing, driven, man who's sexy and also happens to be a secret agent.  Cassie is not clear on all of the details other than she's madly deeply in love with him and she can never tell him, No.  Her and their two children, are happy -- most of the time -- especially when he comes home.  It's when he dashes out, or leaves in the middle of the night for weeks and months without end that life gets trying for Cassie.  That is, until her beloved Jamie is assassinated by terrorists.

Cassie's life is changed forever.  Not just by his violent passing and the enormous job of consoling the children and being strong for them while dying inside herself. As the months tick by, Cassie's life is not returning to normal.  Her son finds a computer game of his father's that has captured his attention and the unwanted attention of others!

Cassie and her family are in danger and they don't even know where to seek their enemy!  Within a day, American Major "Mac" McKinley, Jamie's closest friend comes to pay his respects -- 10 months later.

This fact does not immediately compute as Cassie recalls Mac's picture vividly from an old photo Jamie kept in his wallet that is now her only reminder of him.  Mac quickly becomes the center of Cassie's attention and very soon, her life.  She had fallen in love with him years before with is "wolfish eyes" but the rest of him was lean, strong and virile.  Cassie feels safe with Mac around but bullets keep flying and the game that her son found is seeming to implicate Mac in a number of murders. Cassie flees for her life, children in tow.

Read how Cassie's story ends.  Does she come out unscathed with a romantic partner for life?  Does she follow her husband to the other side?  Is Mac who he says he is?  The suspense is kept up until the very end.  This is a page-turner!  Once you become accustomed to the British tone, you will love this story!


My Rating: 4.5 Blogairy Notebooks

Friday, June 8, 2012

How we DO AC...

So, last weekend we did AC.  You know the new promotion that Atlantic City media folks are pushing, right? DO AC??


You've seen this and other commercials, right?  Well, it got my Hun and I thinking and we took off for a couple of days to relax and not DO too much.

We had a blast!  We visited Maria's Luncheonette on Atlantic Ave.  Tun Tavern (part of the Sheraton across from the Convention Center). We partied (well, tried to at least...) at the 40/40 Club.  [It was SO dead that night (6/2) that we left after only 40 minutes or so.]  We stopped in at the famous Angelo's Fairmount Italian Restaurant.

And most of all we cavorted at the newly renovated Golden Nugget Hotel & Casino.  Did I mention we browsed past Flagship which is located Uptown AC?  They offer timeshares there and it's a family-friendly establishment.  There's also a "passive park", the Oscar E. McClinton, Jr. Waterfront Park, right around the corner from Flagship where you can view the Marina.  Tres chic!  [Yeah, dunno what a passive park is...]

Did you know that Atlantic City is divided into three sections?

  • Uptown
  • MidBeach
  • DownBeach
Yeah.  Sure.  OK.

All the rest of us care about is -- where can I win the most money?  Which casino?? [Many people say DownBeach at Tropicana...]

Anyway, here's our trip in pictures.  Enjoy!!


Crazy NJ Parking Rules...


Angelo's Famous Fairmount Tavern - Chicken Florentine & Chicken Cacciatori
Gold-to-Go @ The Golden Nugget Hotel & Casino (in the lobby)

LOVE this room!!


One of the shops at the Golden Nugget had this replica of the largest gold nugget found.


Really?? 40/40 dead on a Saturday night?? REALLY??
Yes -- REALLY!!

Good food at great prices. So, when you're down on your luck -- go to Maria's!
H20 Club @ The Golden Nugget (Yeah - 4 Jacuzzis outside!!!)

Tun Tavern's Terriyaki Chicken

Tun Tavern's Chicken Parmesan

Tun Tavern's Tun of Wings (they are AWESOME!!)

"I refuse to leave AC!!!!!!"

Cheezin'

Wish this bathroom were mine...
Diva me (watch out Tyra -- here I come!)
You think Golden Nugget's taking the theme too far?? 30 chocolates in a box?? For $29.95??

My Dream House on Sunrise Avenue (seriously that's the name of the street!)


Gold pieces seen thru bullet proof glass on the gold-to-go machine

Me juggling technology

Yeah, I'm laying an egg.


Isn't he dreamy???


Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Life Vignette: Art vs. Dignity

The Spear - Brett Murray
Earlier this week in Johannesburg, South Africa an artist's freedom of expression has been curtailed because of how he depicted the country's president.  Artist Brett Murray painted, 70-year-old President Zuma with his genitals exposed.  The painting is called The Spear and was part of Murray's exhibition called Hail to the Thief II at Goodman Gallery.

The exhibition showcases pieces that are clearly critical of the African National Congress (ANC) which is the party backing President Zuma.  The ANC led the fight against apartheid prior to forming into a formal political party.  To many in South Africa, this makes the current depiction of President Zuma an affront to Black South Africans' dignity because the artist is a White South African.

On May 22nd, The Spear was defaced by two people that were not working together.  The painting has been taken down because of it and the image of the painting was removed from the Gallery's website.  Over 2,000 people marched on Tuesday, May 29th to protest the images and the criticism of the ANC president.  Mapule Kgomo said, "I hate whites passionately after that painting," she added.  "I am so hurt." (Johannesburg AP 5/29/12)


Mapule Kgomo, a black woman from the outskirts of Johannesburg who wrote the sign, said she drew her conclusion about fellow South Africans who are white after seeing the painting, titled "The Spear," that a white South African had made of President Jacob Zuma, who is black. "I hate whites passionately after that painting," she added. "I'm so hurt."

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Mapule Kgomo, a black woman from the outskirts of Johannesburg who wrote the sign, said she drew her conclusion about fellow South Africans who are white after seeing the painting, titled "The Spear," that a white South African had made of President Jacob Zuma, who is black. "I hate whites passionately after that painting," she added. "I'm so hurt."

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Mapule Kgomo, a black woman from the outskirts of Johannesburg who wrote the sign, said she drew her conclusion about fellow South Africans who are white after seeing the painting, titled "The Spear," that a white South African had made of President Jacob Zuma, who is black. "I hate whites passionately after that painting," she added. "I'm so hurt."

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Voice of America writes: "ANC Secretary-General Gwede Mantashe made it clear to protesters outside the Goodman Gallery, and to the country, that what his party wants, they can often get.

“Your power has removed that painting from the website of City Press and from the gallery," said Mantashe. "It has forced an apology from both the Goodman Gallery and Brett Murray, it has forced an apology from the City Press. That is your power.”

"I am not a racist," Murray said in an affidavit filed in the court case, which is still under way. "I do not produce art with an intention to hurt, humiliate or insult."

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"I am not a racist," Murray said in an affidavit filed in the court case, which is still under way.  "I do not produce art with an intention to hurt, humiliate or insult." (Johannesburg AP 5/29/12)

We all know the saying, absolute power corrupts absolutely.  In this case, the power of free speech/expression in a region that is still healing from the deep wounds of apartheid, this painting was not in the best interests of anyone involved.

As creative artists, we all have a duty to ingest the social trends and political rumbles of our times and regurgitate them in meaningful and poignant ways that will incite progressive communication.  While that may be my interpretation of the creative ideal, I think many would agree that a White artist depicting the Black president with his pants down is lacking in good taste and maligns the dignity of the man in question and by association, the ANC.  And, because of the country's historical racial conflicts, this bashing of President Zuma creates extreme personal identification with him by Black South Africans thereby creating the current public outcry.

Jackson Mthembu, an ANC spokesperson said even though the artwork had been ruined, the ANC wanted the gallery to remove the artwork. “That picture represents an apartheid mentality of domination. It may not be complete anymore but that mentality remains and we must deal with that."  (Mail & Guardian 5/29/12)



Ultimately, I am a US-born Caribbean-American female.  I totally understand the right to freedom of speech and expression but I also understand weighing the political currents (and undercurrents).  Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should do it.  Brett Murray, wherever you are, remember the lessons taught to you by your parents about the basics of human interaction...play nice in the sandbox, or else some kid will throw sand in your eyes.



Tuesday, May 29, 2012

5/27's Sunday Lunchable Book Party!



 With beautiful weather, our Sunday Lunchable Book Party at RedBowl in Williamsburg was wonderful!  For a major holiday weekend, we had a very nice turnout including some kiddies to welcome The Magic Seeds.  Food and drink were plentiful and so was the Tsingtao beer! :-))




We chatted about the short story collection, Leaping Out On Faith and the novel Opening Up.  When I described Bronwyn Mitchell, the main character of Opening Up, as a glam trophy wife whose husband comes home with a side dish for them to -- ahem -- play with.  They laughed and was amazed that I would write something like that.  Hey, sometimes you have to explore, right??



Bronwyn does leave her husband that very night and goes to her pied-a-terre in Brooklyn where she bumps into her ex-fiance who is now married.  Because there are unfinished emotions, Bronwyn and Troy fall right back into their feelings.  This creates major internal conflicts for Bronwyn and she swears off all men and begins the rigorous work of redeeming her soul through meditation, sessions with a life coach and a little help from a spiritual guide.

We played a few games where two lucky people walked away with copies of The Magic Seeds and a cool kids toy to while away coming summer hours.
 We also played the What If... game where we brought in some normal everyday items for people to get inspired and create their own stories.  You know, stuff like asofetida, glow-in-the-dark magic liquid, Gumby, a six-armed bendable happy-face man (with a red dot on his forehead...), a hand-drawn image of Memnon, a bronze medal, a frisbee -- you get the picture!  So, our party-goers had to create a story inspired by some, or all, of these items.

Well, the story started off with a little grandchild who needed more self-confidence and somehow asofetida was involved in helping them then Gumby became involved (who happened to be Eddie Murphy) and then -- you know, all I know is Tsingtao beer began being poured (or was that before we started the story...)

Well, you should have been there!



Thank you everyone for coming out and I look forward to seeing the rest of you at future lunchable book parties!

Sunday, May 27, 2012

Book Thoughts: The Grim


The Grim by Raynetta Stocks is a story of a woman who was pushed to the limits of her abilty to cope.  Jacinda "Jaycee" Baynes' lover, Tony, made her life a living hell.  But his charisma, machoism and his sheer sex appeal and popularity made him The On; so much so that her friends turned a blind eye to the obvious signs of physical and mental abuse.
 
 
The Grim follows Jaycee's journey from hell and back and it's a very bumpy ride one that she almost doesn't survive.  Through the efforts of a great lawyer, Jaycee is sent to a psychiatric facility instead of jail and along the way, Jaycee has cultivated friendships that helped her cope.  Yet, these same friendships almost cost Jaycee her sanity!

A nurturer by nature, Jaycee and her therapist work toward fulfilling the court's mandate which is Jaycee must recall the events of that eventful night where everything came to a head with Tony.

Something deep within Jaycee created layer upon layer of protectiveness to help her keep sane.  But, were those layers helping her?  This fascinating look at deconstructing a dysfunctional mind wrapped around a tight action-based plot makes reading The Grim a sheer pleasure.


P.S. - Please ignore the cover image where you see the Grim Reaper.  That image is not representative of this  story at all.  It is extremely misleading.  This is a story of self-discovery and ultimately of salvation.

Rating: 4.5 Blogairy Notebooks

Friday, May 25, 2012

Notebook Blogairy is a Beautiful Blogger Nominee!

 

This is a wonderful surprise (read: shock).  Thank you Scarlett Rains for nominating me!  As I'm sitting here, I'm reflecting upon all of the events that brought this nomination about I'm floored by the small acts of kindness involved.  My fledgling journey to becoming a successful indie author has been buoyed by numerous authors and writers I met online through a variety of websites, blogs, and online writer communities.  You guys at Book Blogs, Cyber Bloggers, Sime~Gen and Zoetrope -- YOU ROCK!!

The Beautiful Blogger Award does come with rules and they are:

  1. You have to link to the blog of the person who nominated you (in this case Scarlett Rains!)
    Sisters of the Heart Blog - Scarlett Rains

  2. You link to seven bloggers who you think deserve the award:

    One-Moment-in-Time

    Raynetta's Soapbox

    Shannon Shaw Books

    Catalina Egan

    AlexisCentric

    Northern Stories

    Basement Level Five

  3. You let those seven bloggers know they have been nominated - DONE!!

  4. You have to share seven facts about yourself
That's it!  So here goes my seven facts...

  1. I've always wanted to skydive; just jump right out of a plane and free fall.  I think that would be awesome!
  2. I'm an only child (and no, I'm not spoiled).
  3. Creating order makes me very happy.
  4. Baking is one of my most favorite things to do next to...
  5. Knitting!  Love knitting up cute quick projects like infant sets, hats & scarves.
  6. My personal heaven is hot yoga.  Love the way the heat relaxes me and helps me to get a better stretch.
  7. Giorgio Armani is my dream personal designer!

Thanks again Scarlett for nominating me!  This is the best form of paying it forward that I've ever seen!